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7 questions to ask on the first date

Updated: Jan 23, 2022

If you are someone who is shy or doesn't know how to start a conversation on a first date here are some questions you can ask and this will help you to know the behavior of the person.

1. How's Your Relationship With Your Parents?

Asking "What is your relationship like with your parents?" is a great way not only to get some background on the person, but also to see how they handle adversity. Even though asking about your childhood might seem really deep on a first date - it's also really revealing.

2. How Would Your Friends Describe You?

Sometimes, asking about someone else's viewpoint is really telling, even if we rarely think to do so. "Asking them what their friends say about them provides them the safety of describing themselves from another person's point of view.

3. What Are You Looking For?

Another question that gets right down to the point. Jump in on the first date by asking about where they're at right now.

"While some might argue this is early, I would argue that this lets you know what page each of you are on, and if they are likely going to be headed in a similar direction, at a pace you can live with." You might as well get right down to it.

4. What's The Best Vacation You've Ever Been On?

Another weird but telling question, asking about their best vacation can be really revealing. "The answer to this question will give you an idea of your date's sense of adventure and what they consider great or standard," Patt says.

5.What Is Your Greatest Achievement?

Another great first date question? One that helps you learn more about them, both by the content of their answer and the way they answer it. "What is your greatest achievement? This is a good opening personal question to discover something about the person you're seeing without them being able to show off too much.

6. What Are Your Thoughts On Monogamy?

One way to jump right in? Ask your date how they feel about monogamy or if they've ever been in an open relationship. "You want to make sure you're on the same page while constructing your partnership foundation."

7. If You Could Have Any Superpower, What Would It Be?

This is a silly question, but it's a lot of fun, too. "Do they really give the question the time of day and think through an answer? Is their answer focused on helping others? Is their power selfish in nature? Are they creative with their response, or do they go for the 'normal' stuff and then move on?" Just know they'll probably ask the question right back.

In addition, we must not shy away from asking pertinent questions in consequent meetings with our potential match. Once we have accessed the basic hygiene on first meet, we must dwell on deeper conversations that can help us know the mindset and thought process of our match.

The Gottman Institute has outlaid important questions to ask in consequent meetings for deeper conversations. You can check out this interesting questions here:

Dating must be fun and an interesting way to know your potential partner. Asking these questions help in accessing the level of synchronicity in your relation.

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